The Great Indian family. Aren't we a happy lot! I can see your smiles, oh such sweet ones too... you hypocritical bastards.
I've always wondered why marriages fail. And always wondered why suddenly, everyone wants to get a divorce. Not that i care, honestly, other people can sort out their issues on their own... They don't need me to tell them what to do. But curiosity, you know thats the clincher.
The sudden interest in this to me at least, is why Relationships fail. I mean, people who know each for months suddenly say things like, its not working out... i don't love you anymore. Okay, people seriously. I don't love you anymore?! Is that even remotely on the same plane as sense?! I mean come on, you've spent enormous time... getting to know each other. And thats more than what everyone with an arranged marriage got and surprisingly, they're still together! ( Okay, how many 45 yr old divorce's do you know? ) I know my parents are, and thats pretty cool.
So why is it that these people survived the test of time, had kids and lived surprisingly happily ever after. And we get stuck with less than less than happy lives and bitchy fights and name calling, and divorces. We must be a really unhappy lot. The media has made us unwilling, to stuck up, too given to choice.
Now that is what i used to think.
Then i realized. Its all a lie.
It takes time, but i waited and then closely looked at these unbreakable and happily married families. They hate it. They've hated it all their lives... they wanted to scream, they wanted out.
But they couldn't, they were stuck in the society's web. Every generation before us, is the reason for the Great Unhappy Family, the reason why these soaps work... is because we are the great Indian unhappy family.
The Happily ever After of your parents is a lie.
The don't love each other, they just got used to each other.
In case they do, by god you're lucky.
They are living a life of lies, of compromises, of choices that were theirs to make but it wasn't then who made them, of dreams walked over, of life forced on. They are all stuck in unhappy marriages, Husbands who cheat on their wives, wives who don't love their husbands, rebellious sons, angry daughters, Husbands yelling at wives, wives yelling at kids, kids yelling at parents,
parents yelling at grandparents, grandparents yelling at maids... a den of hatred, Welcome to the Indian household.
They must've liked someone, in their time. And there are times when they might have regretted it. Now they've come too far to go back. Living a life of regret. What kind of life is that?
Tolstoy said:
"Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way"
However,in this country, every unhappy family is unhappy for the same reason.
Ha. And We're morally bankrupt? Excuse ME!
Disclaimer : I'm Talking about all the Indian Families, if yours isn't as fucked up... congrats. Dil pe mat lo. Magar thoda socho.
2 years ago
